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What Are You Waiting For?

Posted by the prisoner's wife On 9:01 PM

Hello, I'm TPW and I'm a procrastinator!

*hangs head in shame*

For as long as I can remember I have put things off until the last possible minute. When I was younger, I would wait until my mom was threatening me to clean my room. In school, I was always the one burning the midnight (and sometimes 4am) oil to finish papers and projects. Even now, I'll wait until the night before (sometimes) to plan lessons for my students, even though I know that it sucks to stay up so late these days. But I just can't seem to stop...why?

I was on Twitter (of course, right?) when @FunkyBrownChick shared an interesting link about procrastination. Although that article was a little over my head (too much scientific-speak, I mean I'm smart, but I've been on summer break!), but I did find a whole slew of articles aimed at understanding and combating procrastination. One of the articles, "Ending Procrastination" jumped out at me because I need to learn this skill badly.

Presently, I'm sitting here blogging, when I should be purchasing a plane ticket. You see, the munchkin and I have a date with beloved on Friday(!!) and I still don't have our tickets. This always happens. I wait and wait to buy them in the hopes that the price will go down (it never does), and then end up overpaying at the last minute because I'm worried something better will come along. Worry, according to the article, is another form of procrastination that stops people from acting. I totally get it. I'm not a huge worry wart, but when it comes to buying airline tickets? I worry about everything. But WHY? What am I so worried about? Clearly, I end up overpaying in the end, so it can't be the money, right?

The article on ending procrastination gives 8 strategies for reducing procrastination and I hope they are magic bullets.

1. Make a list of everything you have to do.
2. Write a statement of intention.
3. Set realistic goals.
4. Break it down into specific tasks.
5. Make your task meaningful.
6. Promise yourself a reward.
7. Eliminate tasks you never plan to do. Be honest!
8. Estimate the amount of time you think it will take you to complete a task. Then increase the amount by 100%.

Those things sound great in THEORY, but I know myself. I will procrastinate on making the list and end right back up in the same spot. I am starting to think procrastination has a lot to do with fear. Check it, I procrastinate on writing because I'm afraid to fail. I feel my writing (or myself?) isn't good enough. I harbor several other self-doubts, so I understand that sort of emotional procrastination. But what's with the airfare?

Are you a procrastinator?
What have you been putting off that you want to do?
Got any advice? I need it!

8 Response to 'What Are You Waiting For?'

  1. Nicole Said,
    http://theprisonerswife.blogspot.com/2009/08/what-are-you-waiting-for.html?showComment=1250593932358#c5831507881939149359'> Tuesday, August 18, 2009 4:12:00 AM

    Thank you so much for this post! I too am a chronic procrastinator, and it was literally wrecked havoc on my life. I am a total flake at times, and there are moments when I'm all over the place. I'm buying that book!


  2. http://theprisonerswife.blogspot.com/2009/08/what-are-you-waiting-for.html?showComment=1250601313844#c8037472988575781139'> Tuesday, August 18, 2009 6:15:00 AM

    Girl? Just know that you're NOT alone. Thanks for the list... glad to see I'm not alone, and that there IS hope--LOL!


  3. http://theprisonerswife.blogspot.com/2009/08/what-are-you-waiting-for.html?showComment=1250606890932#c6591509066592745999'> Tuesday, August 18, 2009 7:48:00 AM

    Girl I am such a procrastinator. I just told my husband I hate the fact that I procrastinate. I must say that I am doing a bit better. I have on my desk "Now is the new Later". That has helped me to get things done, but I'm still procrastinating in other areas. And worry is a procrastinator. As I think about the things I'm procrastinating on it's because I worry people won't like it, it won't make money, blah blah blah. Oh what is a procrastinator to do.


  4. http://theprisonerswife.blogspot.com/2009/08/what-are-you-waiting-for.html?showComment=1250617179509#c4675971419531535025'> Tuesday, August 18, 2009 10:39:00 AM

    Nicole: girl, you're welcome. It's glad to know i'm not the only one that struggles with this. i'm prone to flakiness too, which isn't cool. hopefully we'll all get it together soon.

    Denene: i wouldn't peg you for a procrastinator, esp with all the writing you get done. how do you manage it all? it's good to know that there is hope though LOL

    Felicia: I'm glad you're doing better with it. that saying is hella dope. i might have to copy it & use it. thanks for sharing it!


  5. Execumama Said,
    http://theprisonerswife.blogspot.com/2009/08/what-are-you-waiting-for.html?showComment=1250656958078#c2978013153650294549'> Tuesday, August 18, 2009 9:42:00 PM

    NOPE. Not a lick (of advise) here. But I do thank ya for posting the tips, and I am finding that making shorter "To do" lists, and placing reminders of priority tasks in my phone calendar help me to get 'er done more often than not.


  6. Sista GP Said,
    http://theprisonerswife.blogspot.com/2009/08/what-are-you-waiting-for.html?showComment=1250798616785#c8762090651646275122'> Thursday, August 20, 2009 1:03:00 PM

    My problem is there appears so much to do. The time it would take to list them all, I could have gotten a few of them off the list. Catch-22?


  7. SE'LAH... Said,
    http://theprisonerswife.blogspot.com/2009/08/what-are-you-waiting-for.html?showComment=1251254229678#c2447970751319797656'> Tuesday, August 25, 2009 7:37:00 PM

    Problem is, I procrastinate in making the list ;)

    we all do it.

    hope all is well



  8. http://theprisonerswife.blogspot.com/2009/08/what-are-you-waiting-for.html?showComment=1251663589530#c2187750349152703504'> Sunday, August 30, 2009 1:19:00 PM

    I was wondering where you were. Travel Safely Love.