tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21175262.post1511231629006975960..comments2024-01-31T16:14:54.816-08:00Comments on The Prisoner's Wife: It's Gotta Be Youthe prisoner's wifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11160398635149797677noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21175262.post-87898392422801306942008-10-18T07:46:00.000-07:002008-10-18T07:46:00.000-07:00Hi,I teach kindergarten and I see it at even a 5 y...Hi,<BR/>I teach kindergarten and I see it at even a 5 year old level. The girls are catty. That has just never been a part of my personality, I don't like confrontation and will avoid it. I too think that it is a combination or glorifying tough girls on tv, the images, and the labels we give them. Positive, strong women needs/should be portrayed more. I think if you continue the wonderful work you are doing being a positive role model it will help. They are listening and you do make a difference. A friend of mine after an especially tough conference with a parent yesterday thought why am I doing this, am I making a difference type questions. She was feeling discouraged and right after that got a phone call from one of her former students who is now in 7th grade and in her class the first year she taught. She said she was doing well and thought of her often and missed her. My friend then said that is exactly what she needed. So yes you do make a positive difference in the lives of these young people.Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05883749754209189328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21175262.post-4073987740056322302008-10-18T07:13:00.000-07:002008-10-18T07:13:00.000-07:00Xtina: yes, mean women suck! and for my students, ...<B>Xtina</B>: yes, mean women suck! and for my students, i try to warn/tell them that as black girls, this behavior if kept up can lead them to the prison system. i don't want them getting locked up & then falling into that cycle.<BR/><BR/>and your little dude...his bday is on monday, and i'm throwing him a party next weekend (lord help me lol). so hopefully everything will turn out fun and fab!the prisoner's wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11160398635149797677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21175262.post-75453219138362741742008-10-17T20:21:00.000-07:002008-10-17T20:21:00.000-07:00This has always been a disturbing subject to me. M...This has always been a disturbing subject to me. Mean girls! What is really disheartening is that a lot of these mean girls grow into mean women. I just don't get that! <BR/><BR/>I know that you are wearing a lot of hats in your classroom sis, but you are a wonderful, caring teacher and you will make a difference in these students lives, when you least expect it. <BR/><BR/>So... you getting ready for my lil boyfriends BIRFday party?? LOL <BR/><BR/>Kiss the family for me.christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15541888793748453425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21175262.post-52967219971518700152008-10-17T18:16:00.000-07:002008-10-17T18:16:00.000-07:00babz: i hope so. because on the daily i can't ...<B>babz</B>: i hope so. because on the daily i can't tell if i'm making a difference or not. it's hard to even say IF i'm helping...*sigh* i will be getting trained as an IMPACT group leader next month & then i'll be running a support group at my school. so maybe that will help, but right now...i dunno.the prisoner's wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11160398635149797677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21175262.post-87024178896126000392008-10-17T17:43:00.000-07:002008-10-17T17:43:00.000-07:00As a former educator, I have stood in your place. ...As a former educator, I have stood in your place. It is daunting, but you are making inroads. You just don't see it and you may not see it until a student comes back and says YOU MADE A DIFFERENCE.<BR/><BR/>Trust your instincts. Continue to give them food for thought. Maybe have a rap-session (do they still call them rap-sessions?...LOL).<BR/><BR/>What I have found is that no one hears them...really hears them and no one engages them so they act out...they act tough...they act desperate.<BR/><BR/>Continue to create a safe space for them to share and dream and think.<BR/><BR/>God bless you for caring enough to be concerned. That is divine.Babz Rawls Ivyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04059921674059371076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21175262.post-91661897773768419292008-10-16T19:40:00.000-07:002008-10-16T19:40:00.000-07:00true. the glorification of toughness is a problem ...true. the glorification of toughness is a problem across gender. i mean a lot has been said for African-American males who seem to place more importance on being tough or hard, versus being smart. there is a new short film out called "Barack & Curtiss." it explores the complexities of Black masculinity. it's quite interesting. check it out: http://www.bhurt.com/barackandcurtis.phpthe prisoner's wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11160398635149797677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21175262.post-69066329460843623902008-10-16T18:10:00.000-07:002008-10-16T18:10:00.000-07:00I think it's a combination of our culture (aggress...I think it's a combination of our culture (aggressive, strong minded, independent) as well as the media (t.v., music). We tend to glorify "bad ass chicks," and give them more attention than women who are not as confrontational and who would rather walk away. When we stop labeling the "Bad Girls" as fun and entertaining (as well as stop giving them attention), then we will start to end the problem.Beautifully.Conjured.Uphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07406790625325877853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21175262.post-65231823093237314702008-10-16T14:26:00.000-07:002008-10-16T14:26:00.000-07:00Beautifully.Conjure: i agree. it's just that i'm a...Beautifully.Conjure: i agree. it's just that i'm almost burnt out. and i'm not alone. my friend who is a school counselor in NY was telling me today that the girls at her school (it's a continuation school so they are b/w 16-21) are just as bad. they fight, they are mean and nasty. i am wondering if it's something about our culture. do we overcelebrate the "Mean Girls" and people like them?the prisoner's wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11160398635149797677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21175262.post-12098677126723608412008-10-16T07:29:00.000-07:002008-10-16T07:29:00.000-07:00I don't feel that conversations alone is enough, b...I don't feel that conversations alone is enough, because once the girls are in their own environment, those conversations go out the door. Dealing with adolescents is a very difficult, volatile. One of the reasons is due to the mentality of adolescents and their changing internal functions (i.e. hormones, regulation systems). Depending on one action of prevention isn't feasible; these girls need to not only hear, but see, and experience some other avenues other than the ones they are participating in.Beautifully.Conjured.Uphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07406790625325877853noreply@blogger.com